Grief is a formidable force. And when it hits you directly, it holds the power to take you to your knees.
When grief hits, your mind will go in a million directions at once, and many of them are detrimental to your well-being.
There are over 40 life experiences that may cause you grief: loss of a loved one, job loss, divorce, change in the health of a family member, and financial issues, to name a few.
I remember a class I attended on grief and I left the class with a new perspective.
Grief is the psychological-emotional experience following a loss of any kind. It is a highly individualized process and has no specific timetable.
Grief is frightening.
It’s emotional. And eruptive.
But grief can be a great teacher if we allow it.
Feeling overwhelmed is natural. So is fear and confusion, anger, and a host of other emotions that will bombard you.
You’ll want answers to real questions, as though knowing these answers will help to reestablish some sort of control in your life….. some semblance of order.
Don’t judge your feelings.
Give yourself time to work through your feelings.
Short-cuts tend to short-change the process and potentially create longer-term painful consequences, such as, actual physical illnesses.
When grief knocks, the expectation is to “be strong” and “bear up” but you can’t rush grief.
It’s not an obstacle course that you endure, and there’s no cure or fast way to get through it.
There are no specific set of practices that will help everyone with their grieving process. We each develop creative ways to work and cope with it.
Grief is a process.
Over time we can learn to integrate the grief into our lives and find healthy ways to move forward.
You can’t control every thought that enters your mind, but you don’t have to allow the negative ones to stay there. Either dismiss them as soon as they appear, or redirect your negative thoughts elsewhere.
Affirm the positive.
Concentrate on something… anything…. positive. And find at least one thing each day to be grateful for.
Tell yourself that you’re going to be okay. Tell yourself you WILL get through today.
When we choose to grieve, we are choosing hope, because we’ve decided to take the necessary steps to move through the pain and, over time, start living again.
“Don’t let the pains of one season overshadow the joys of the rest of the year. Try not to judge life by one difficult season; cherish instead the exceptional seasons given to you in love.” – Cerge Remonde
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Until next time…..
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Althea
Connecting people, ideas, and resources so that a person’s life is better because I helped them make the right connection!!
